Jack and Max were walking for a Sunday prayer. Jack wondered whether it would be all right to smoke while praying. Max replies, “Why don’t you ask the Priest?”
So Jack goes up to the Priest and asks, “may I smoke while I pray?”
The Priest replies, “No, my son, you may not! That’s utter disrespect to our belief.” Jack goes back to his friend and tells him what the good Priest told him. Max says, “I’m not surprised. You asked the wrong question. Let me try.” And so Max goes up to the Priest and asks, “may I pray while I smoke?” To which the Priest eagerly replies, “By all means, my son, by all means. You can always pray whenever you want to.”
Moral of the story: The approval you want depends on the way you ask for it! If you think this is the end of the story then the answer is no. Actually it starts.
I will continue the second part of it after telling you why I remembered this story suddenly, I heard 30-years before in my Management class under the topic called “how to ask good questions?”
On this Monday while crossing khalghat Sendhwa toll gate on the border of Maharashtra and Madhya Pradesh, my car has to wait at the long cash payment queue since I didn’t have the “FastTag.” Suddenly several vehicles overtook me from the right side, told something to the truck drivers and managed to break the queue and went faster. Sitting behind I thought cars have special permission and told my driver to do the same from next toll. But when I rolled my window and requested the driver to let me break the queue he refused and asked me to reverse and stand in the queue again. While the cars behind me managed to convince the same truck driver and go. That is when I realised that they used some sob story like “the child is not well, we are rushing to the doctor.” After paying the toll, they were happy that they could hoodwink the poor truck driver and break the queue. The children in the car were happy that they had a clever father.
Now the second part of the story: To me Jack was ethical thought driven.
Max is a Machiavellian motto driven.
The former may have disappointment for not able to get permission to smoke but he can take eternal solace that he obeyed the dictate of his shepherd.
The later would immensely rejoice that he hoodwinked the priest by clever positioning of his intention to achieve goal by any hook or crook, but in one corner of his heart he will have eternal needle pricking him every now and then for his act of cheating and he will feel sad when his own son, who is a kid now, grow up and do the same thing to him. But one can argue that in Kaliyug the people with the Max’s traits make fortunes! But they seldom understand that their action has completely eroded value system of their next generation.
If your actions are driven by ethical motives and thoughts you will enjoy the bliss of self actualization of divine blessed, because basically you are a tiniest speck of the Divine being itself.
This will give everlasting mental satisfaction than the monetary gain purchased satisfaction you easily acquire by resorting unethical ways.